By saying, “I do,” you commit to a lifetime of forgiving and forgetting,
but there are a few actions you should never accept or permit in your
marriage. Love isn’t always unconditional. If your spouse is behaving in
any of these ways, please seek help:
1. Disgust
Contempt includes “sarcasm,
cynicism, name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile
humor. It is essentially reacting with disgust toward your partner. When
you show contempt toward your spouse, problems don’t get resolved, and
it destroys your husband’s or wife’s self esteem
2. $exually explicit media
Being exposed to P0*n just once can make people feel less in love with their significant other.
3. Last place
Illness,
children and careers often take priority, but spouses shouldn’t always
come in last place. If your spouse is consistently paying attention to
everyone and everything but you, that is a problem. Partner neglect is a
real thing, and it is a silent relationship killer.
4. Vices
A
“vice” includes any immor*l conduct. Does your partner lie? Cheat?
Steal? Does he or she break the law? Your spouse’s misconduct not only
affects their life; it affects your life as well. If your spouse gets
sued, goes to jail or goes bankrupt for his or her actions, it is going
to follow you wherever you go.
5. Rage
There is a huge
difference between anger and rage. Couples are obviously going to get
mad or annoyed at each other from time to time. But rage is completely
different and much more intense. If your spouse lashes out in
uncontrollable hatred and fury, that is neither normal nor healthy.
6. cheat*ng
Infidelity
is never acceptable. A strong, healthy marriage requires complete
faithfulness. Authors Joy and Gary Lundberg explain in their article,
“10 ways you are being unfaithful to your spouse and don’t even know
it,” that cheat*ng includes flirting with co-workers, confiding to
someone of the opposite gender, talking negatively about your spouse,
spending time alone with someone of the opposite gender, dressing to
attract someone other than your spouse, and withholding s*x as
punishment.
7. Hitting
Physical, verbal and emotional
abuse are never acceptable in a marriage. If your spouse hits, punches,
degrades or humiliates you, get help. Even if you are married, you
should never be forced to have s*x against your will.
If you are
experiencing any of these problems, don’t give up hope — but get help
immediately. Find a counselor or spiritual leader that you can talk to
and make the necessary steps to save your marriage or find an escape to
leave a harmful situation.
