Sonia Morales, wife of Nollywoord actor, IK Ogbonna has opened up on a
few issues as regarding her personal life and relationship with the
Nollywood actor.
| Ik Ogbonna and wife, Sonia |
In a chat with Kemi Filani Blog, wife of the Nollywood actor opened up
on almost all there is to know. Read excerpts of the interview below:
How do you feel being a mother, a sexy one at that?
Yea! You can say that again. I’m such a sexy mother (laughs). Motherhood
is an amazing experience. It’s every woman’s dream. It’s also one of
the most important decisions ever in the life of every woman. Despite
that, it’s also very challenging.
I’m just 24; going 25, quite young and had my first child at the right age too.
Motherhood is a very beautiful experience. It fulfills me. It builds a woman’s confident.
How do you cope with your husband’s busy career?
I’m married to IK Ogbonna not his career. No matter what happens in our
marriage we try to keep it inside the house. No matter who you date or
marry, as long as the person is successful in whatever he is doing, it
makes his wife or partner proud of him.
Shortly after you gave birth, you regained that same slim and sexy figure, how did you do that?
Well, I never really gained a lot of weight when I was pregnant because I
believe that women should work on their bodies during pregnancies not
after.
I eat healthy, I never used pregnancy as an excuse to over eat. I work
out. I’m very health conscious, with the thought of my baby on my mind.
Even the day of my delivery, I had 30 minutes’ walk out. I take a lots
of water. So I didn’t get extra fat. If I eat too much, I won’t feel
good. Basically, it’s all about self-discipline.
You are now a wife and mother, but your sexy photos still flood the
Internet, especially Instagram, do you know it’s against African
beliefs?
I don’t care. Painfully, there are critics everywhere. I would have
taken their words to heart when I was much younger, but not now. A lot
of my followers on Instagram write bad things about the way I flaunt my
body but I really don’t care.
If anybody is mean at condemning me, then I’m pretty sure, I am not
their issue, they have other pressing personal matters bothering them
and they are just looking for a way to transfer the aggressions.
Some people make fake Instagram pages just to drop hateful comments, but
I’ll advise them to channel their strength and time to something more
positive.
You are a Colombian, married to a Nigerian, mixed culture, beliefs, etc., what gave you the full confidence to give it a trial?
I’m married to a Nigerian; an Igbo man to be precise. It’s all about his
personality and the love we share. Love helps one overcome every
circumstances. Every human has issues, the good sides and bad sides, but
if we understand ourselves, then we can live together as one.
Sometimes, I get angry at women, because they believe that in marriage
they are the only ones compromising. We have to learn to meet our
partner’s half-way. We shouldn’t allow him to sacrifice everything.
Women should learn to drop that belief.
Before you married our brother, IK, you must have dated some other non-Nigerian guys, can you compare them?
I don’t like generalization at all. It’s all about the person. Even kids
from same mother, don’t behave alike. As long there is love,
understanding and respect, you can make a good husband and partner.
Nigerian or non-Nigerians are all humans, created by same God.
How are you coping with the food, tradition, weather, etc., of a full African man?
I don turn full naija babe oh (laughs). Well, I believe that if you come
to a particular new place and environment, you have to bend down to
learn. All you need do is take home the things you feel you like and
also share the ones you have in you. I must confess, it has been a
beautiful experience here in Nigeria.
Did you ever know you’d end up with a Nigerian?
Yes, I know! IK is a very lovely and selfless man. I knew I would end up
with a Nigerian; Igbo man to be precise because my childhood friend is
from Onitsha and she will always tell me ‘na Igbo man go marry you oh’. I
was just laughing, now she’s the one laughing at me.
Igbo men know how to take good care of their wives. I feel so proud and
fulfilled that I choose to marry who I want and when I wanted. Love is
blessing.
What was your family’s reaction when you decided to settle for an Igbo guy as life partner?
My family doesn’t categorize people based on where they coming from. We
all know that there are good and bad people everywhere, no matter
ethnicity, skin colour, religion. My parents love Ik too much. He is
like a son to them because he has an amazingly big heart. He is a being
super-good man to me and super loving and caring dad to our child. Every
normal parent is happy with their children’s happiness.
What marriage has changed about you?
Nothing at all. The nature of my relationship with IK didn’t change by
the fact we are officially married with a baby. At the end of the day,
it’s only a paper, but at the other hand you know how people decide to
marry these days because of so many different reasons that doesn’t
include love – because they think they are “not getting any younger” or
they getting pressured by society, because of interest or out of long
relationships where love and passion vanished but marriage seemed like
only logical step to take.
Did you feel awkward having a baby first before marriage?
Having a child as a product of honest, selfless love is the most
beautiful feeling ever, there is special unbreakable bond between 3 of
us. Priceless.
I know Igbos like babies a lot, so when is the next baby coming?
Baby? (Laughs). Not so soon. Until my baby learns how to change his
diapers no other baby coming. Not now, my dear. I have so many things to
do. Don’t you know having a baby is like a full-time job? I want to
focus on Ace for now, when we are ready for another one, he or she would
sure come.
Would you try acting someday?
Acting? No! It’s not my kind of thing. I know I have the look of a great
actress but look can be very deceptive. Acting is not meant for me at
all.
So what do you do at the moment?
I support my husband and his chosen career. I pray for him, take care of
his home and son. Since we got to know better, good things started
coming his way. He is used to say I’m his witch (laughs).
Have you quit modelling?
Point of correction, I was never a model. I don’t know why people keep
having that misconception. Never in my life did I model. I’m a graduate
of Political science and had worked in some government offices; like
Ministry of Defence.
